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Why You Need To Study Happy Living Habits If You Want Greater Success!
Happy living was never my ambition. I dreamt of changing the world. Trauma, heartache and self doubt left me disappointed and disillusioned with life.
How could I change the world? I was living the consequence of all my bad habits...
"Sow the seeds of the dragon, reap the whirlwind" - Told to me by a friend. Source unknown
...Drama and chaos is a polite description of what it looked like.
My teens and early 20’s blazed a trail of self-destruction. A rebellious adventure ended in a depression that was to linger for 15 years. My pain dominated my thoughts. My dreams half-baked; I felt truly small.
By 35, while I was no longer a mess, I'd a hangover of negative habits. I clung to them like a moth to a flame. Insane.
I’d tried many things. Positive affirmations felt like a band aid. Nothing changed how I felt inside - this quiet desperation and fatigue wouldn’t leave me. The living dead.
I hadn’t the inner resources to match the resourcefulness required on the outside. My dreams sat in my back pocket. I was infected with fear and self doubt. I didn't leave home unless I had to. My self hate was most certainly a big cause. One of the best ways to manage stress is to change the way you see yourself.
But that was but a part. There was so much more. Every habit in one's life - a cog in the wheel.
What happy living habits did for me...
The chief cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what you want most for what you want right now.”— Zig Ziglar
...Turns out I was normal. The inability to delay gratification was a result of certain chemicals. My brain had wired itself to sabotage my attempts to build. I couldn't handle stress.
The discovery of the science of happiness and positive psychology transformed me. It gave me stress management tips to reduce the worry, to build my resilience, to free myself of pain...
...and showed me how to make more of the happy chemicals like serotonin and dopamine in my body.
Wow what a change. I began to see not only was happiness not a hedonistic quest, but it was one of great necessity. Finding inner happiness freed me to engage with life again. Feeling alive for the first time in my adult life allowed me get back to the business of changing the world. It gave me back my mission. It gave me back my life.
Positive psychology and the neuroscience of it, showed me it is a matter of habit. We can rewire our brains. That there is a recipe to happy living. That it had nothing to do with the outside.
Happiness science research, gives evidence that people who’ve succeed over a life time, have a degree of inner happiness. There are building blocks as discussed here in this TED essay on happiness. It's not elusive. It's chemistry. Nothing I couldn’t do in the comfort of my own home.
There is nothing wrong with me. There is a biology that keeps you driven for the NOW. There is a chemical circuit that keeps one down and unable to stay in action. You become wired for addiction and bad habits. Each habit increased my stress hormones. A vicious downward cycle into hell.
It gave me something to believe. The various habits were not new to me. But I hadn't done them all before. My mind did not believe that what I did mattered. “What’s the point?’ my Skeptic argued. I did not understand I needed to train. I could teach my brain how to be happy. Happiness is practise.
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You may dismiss the notion of happy living as a pursuit worthwhile.
Like I did, you may think it a waste of time. Not possible at all. You may view it as a lazy...
...or a hedonistic quest for endless pleasure.
One's definition of happiness may influence how meaningful such a quest becomes.
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