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Stress Management Tips!
Six stress management tips - Not a quick fix
1. Raise your stress threshold
Your stress threshold is your limit of what you can handle from life.
A low stress threshold can be the reason you don't know how to be happy - no matter how hard you try. No wonder you're skeptical when people like me tell you you can find authentic happiness. You don't even know what happiness is.
A low stress threshold means it doesn't take much to feel like you can't cope. In other words, your resilience is low.
Your break point is known as a stress edge! It can feel like you're on a tight rope. Your happiness chemicals are low. Your stress hormones are too high. The stress edge is where you act out.
Bill Harris, in Thresholds of the Mind, calls this
'The unholy trinity of resistance.'
You escape to your addictions.
It's default behaviours.
You don't think twice.
The HOW you act out varies from person to person. You learned in childhood what works to protect yourself. Now, as you 'adult' your life, you may find your reactions make the situation worse.
You can increase your stress threshold so that it'll take longer for you to reach your edge.
In other words, you can increase your capacity to handle more.
Big dreams, big projects! The greater the responsibility, the greater the challenge. You can raise your own bar.
Watch how this Karate teacher deals with a student who hit his stress edge.
When I watched this, it resonated so much for me. Even as a child, my capacity to handle stress was low. It worsened in adulthood. I had post-traumatic stress syndrome. I did not cope well with life's turns. That left my dreams shattered. It added pain on top of my pain.
I studied what happiness is. I trained myself in the very authentic happiness habits. Because I wanted to do so much more with my life.
Activities such as meditation, karate, yoga, mental training, self inquiry, detaching from our story, learning to see things differently can all contribute to the increase on our tolerance of stress. Did you know, the right diet plays a HUGE role? (see Step 4)
You can teach yourself how to respond when stress edge does hit.
2. Train your response
For warriors in particular, if you calm your own mind and discern the inner minds of others, that may be called the foremost art of war – Shiba Yoshimasa
You must train yourself to RESPOND not react. THIS IS POWER. Your capacity to CHOOSE!
Response-Able gives you an unbelievable tenacity to craft your destiny. Without this power, you'll blame the outside world for your problems. You'll think your actions are because of what others do.
Reactions create more pain, drama and crisis. You'll explain why, you'll justify. Responses draw on wisdom. They seek solutions.
I learned in karate that my reactions are conditioned. Do I duck, stand still or fight back?
It is said the way you show up on the dojo floor is how you are in the rest of your life. Well, I quickly hit my stress edge in kumite (fighting). Like the young man in the video above, I'd burst into tears in practise.
In karate, we train in basics over and over. An entire class dedicated to the repetition of sequences - long before we spar. It teaches the brain how to react.
Sparring, is the opportunity for exposure to outside elements we can not control. Sparring shows us our progress. A place to test. A place to stretch. It can be fun.
The repetition is where the mind is conditioned. The spar class tells us where we need more practise.
Until automation takes over. This is how we master ourselves.
It's the same for you. It requires you show up for coaching class (or whatever you've chosen to do). Show up for practise. See outside events as the opportunity to see how far you've come. Make it an adventure.
Go back to class. Repeat. Repeat.
It is the make or break of your transformation and healing. Without this step, none of the other steps are possible. For it is here that choice and discipline are born.
Practise these stress management tips so you balance your stress hormones and allow your happiness hormones to breathe.
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